Radio tomorrow ｜ From ＂social fear＂ to ＂social cattle＂, what kind of socialization do young people need？

Anchor of this issue: Yi Xiaoqing

# Keywords: social cattle disease

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What is the hottest word in the second half of this year? "Social cow disease" is definitely one. On social networks, more and more people are labeled as "social cow disease". For example, Olympic champion Chen Yuxi often appears in other people’s photos, and his lively and cheerful personality is dubbed "social cow disease"; In the reality show, some invited guests "solo" were full of audience and couldn’t stop, which also made dizzy netizens call them "social cow disease".

To put it simply, the most typical "clinical manifestation" of "social cow disease" is that you are not afraid of others’ eyes, ridicule and neglect when socializing, and you can "socialize" with all kinds of people anytime and anywhere. This social ability, which is beyond the reach of "social phobia", often creates a strange atmosphere of "I am not embarrassed by anyone who is embarrassed", which truly interprets the true meaning of the sentence "once born and twice cooked" in them.

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"Social Cow Disease" provides a set of symbol system for netizens to recognize social character. After the word became popular, many young people suddenly discovered that parents were the "ceiling of human social interaction". For example, some netizens ridiculed their parents for suddenly singing two voices when they were walking on the road; Some people even told the story that "my mother bought a live chicken and didn’t dare to kill it. She shouted in the community with a chicken and asked who would kill it, so I took a kitchen knife and followed it", which made people laugh.

However, among the many manifestations of "social cow disease", some extreme forms are too "unconventional" and even make people physically uncomfortable. For example, some people suddenly shout "the taste of childhood" in restaurants, and others will "grab" other people’s food while others are eating. There are many so-called "social cow disease" videos on the Internet, practicing martial arts on the subway and screaming on the bus. These actions have undoubtedly exceeded the acceptance boundaries of most people.

Rather than saying that these prominent people on the internet are "social cattle disease", it is better to say that they are deliberately grandstanding and attracting attention with extreme behavior regardless of beauty and ugliness. This hysterical carnival of selling ugliness will not only make the parties fall into "social death", but also be an offense to others and lose sincerity and courtesy in interpersonal communication.

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Many young people who discuss "social cow disease" look up to and envy those who have more social skills with a "social fear" mentality. Although "social phobia" has long been paid attention to and studied by psychology, the "social phobia" discussed by people on social networks is more worried and self-deprecating, not necessarily a real mental illness. Sometimes, "social fear" is just a synonym for being relatively introverted and "thin-skinned", and it may not need correction and treatment.

The contrast between "social phobia" and "social cow disease" conveys some social anxiety of young people. Some people are not unable to learn from "social cow disease", but unwilling to step out of the comfort zone of "social phobia" easily. From this perspective, shielding and resistance may be the reason for some people’s "social fear." In this way, it is not difficult to understand the "anti-reconnaissance social fear" of bowing your head or wearing headphones when you meet your colleagues.

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Take the word "social" apart, it refers to the communication interaction across different social circles. Everyone has different social boundaries, and the emotional support they want is also complex and diverse. Every move of an individual may be labeled as personality by others. Too sophisticated social skills, although it can also be regarded as "social cow disease", may not produce good results, but may leave a noisy and hypocritical impression.

Rather than saying that contemporary young people are increasingly disgusted with socializing, it is better to say that they urgently need opportunities for self-disclosure that can put themselves down and put down their guard, and they need higher quality socializing.

In life, friends and confidants are more expensive than essence. We often feel lost in the imagination of ideal social interaction. Perhaps the real social dilemma of young people is that the fate is too shallow and they come and go in a hurry. It’s an instinct for human beings to socialize, so it’s necessary to be friendly. If the discussion upsurge of "social cow disease" can make more people think more deeply about socialization, then these discussions will not be in vain.

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Original title: "Radio Tomorrow | From" social fear "to" social cattle ",what kind of socialization do young people need? 》

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