Get together for divorce after the year? Is there a long queue at the divorce office of the Civil Affairs Bureau? Recently, a number of videos circulated on the Internet showed that the divorce registration offices of civil affairs bureaus in some areas "exploded" after the Spring Festival, and there were even rumors that divorce teams in some areas lined up at the door of civil affairs bureaus.
At present, some of the above videos have been officially rumored. The reporter also learned from the Marriage Registry of the Civil Affairs Bureau of many places that the number of divorcees in some areas did increase after the Chinese New Year because they did not handle business, but there was no long queue, and some areas replied that there was no increase, and even the number of married people was more than the number of divorced people … …
It is nothing new that the divorce rate has gradually increased in the past 20 years. The reporter found out that from 2003 to 2019, China’s national crude divorce rate (the ratio of annual divorce to total population, usually expressed in thousandths) suddenly rose, and the number of divorce registrations nearly quadrupled during this period. Although it is not really a trend to choose divorce after the year, some people in the team that handles divorce after the year admit that the reason why they specially make an appointment for divorce after the year is to have a New Year’s Eve dinner with their children and bilateral parents without leaving any final regrets.
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Is there a wave of divorce after the holiday?
Multi-local Civil Affairs Bureau responded:
The number of divorces has not increased sharply.
On January 28th, a video released by a man in Fuyang, Anhui Province was circulated on the Internet, showing that only two couples got married in Yingshang County Civil Affairs Bureau of Fuyang, but the divorce team was outside the Civil Affairs Bureau. For a time, the topic of getting together for divorce after the year triggered a heated discussion on the Internet.
But soon, Yingshang County Civil Affairs Bureau issued a rumor statement on January 30, calling the short video content a rumor. In the statement, it was explained that the contents of the video were all located at the marriage registration window on the first floor, and the people in the queue were all people who registered for marriage, while the divorce registration window was on the second floor. The information video was a diversion and confusing.
Coincidentally, another netizen also recently released a video of a long queue at the entrance of the divorce room of Poyang County Civil Affairs Bureau in Shangrao, Jiangxi Province. Accordingly, a staff member of Shangrao Civil Affairs Bureau in Jiangxi told the reporter that the specific situation in the video is being verified, but from the marriage registration data of the Civil Affairs Bureau, the divorce business volume is not much different from that before.
Is the peak of divorce after the year real? The reporter learned about the relevant situation from the Marriage Registry of the Civil Affairs Bureau of many places. On the whole, a number of civil affairs bureau staff said: "The number of people who handle marriage and divorce has indeed increased after the year, but the overall situation is still in a stable period."
On January 31, a staff member of the marriage registration office of a district civil affairs bureau in Jinan told the reporter: "According to the working hours that morning, the number of people applying for divorce business is 5 pairs, and the number of people applying for marriage business is 3 pairs. In a normal state, there is no such thing as a peak period of marriage and divorce. "
However, Ms. Wu, a citizen of Yangzhou, told the reporter: "I went through the divorce procedure on the third day after the year, and there was indeed a queue, but there was no big queue ‘ Changlong ’ 。” Ms. Wu said that she did not deliberately choose to divorce after the year, but the appointment date and number of people before the year were full, just making an appointment on the third day after the year.
Ms. Wu told the reporter that she went to the local civil affairs bureau for divorce at about 10 am that day, and the queue time did not exceed one hour. "There may be a queue because the business is not handled during the Chinese New Year, so it will be handled later in the year, and the number of people will naturally increase."
The operator of the marriage registration office of a district civil affairs bureau in Hangzhou also gave the same answer. "Although there are no recent detailed statistics, the number of divorces and marriages will generally increase after the year." The operator explained that this was because the Civil Affairs Bureau did not handle business during the Chinese New Year, which led to a backlog of applications for marriage and divorce. This is a normal phenomenon, there is no obvious sharp increase, and it is still in a stable period.
In addition, the reporter also called several marriage registration offices in Haidian District, Beijing and Heping District, Tianjin. The staff in these areas all said that the number of people who handled divorce after the holiday did not increase significantly. Among them, the Civil Affairs Bureau of Zhengzhou, Henan Province proposed that the number of applications for divorce by the Civil Affairs Bureau did not increase sharply after the year, but the number of people who came to get married increased a lot.
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Marriage service industry practitioners:
Who to go back to for the New Year, how to share housework, etc.
Divorce promoter in adulthood
Although it is a coincidence that Ms. Wu divorced after the year. However, in order to eat the last reunion dinner, some people deliberately chose to go through the divorce formalities after the year.
"We originally agreed to divorce at the end of December, 2022, but we wanted to take our children to have the last reunion dinner on both sides, so we decided the date of divorce after the year."
Ms. Liang, 39, went through the divorce procedure in Wuxi on the afternoon of January 31. She told reporters that she finished the processing that morning, and there was no long queue. But when talking about her divorce, Ms. Liang still choked.
Ms. Liang, who has been married for nearly 10 years, and her ex-husband have a daughter: "Although the child is only 6 years old, she already knows the meaning of divorce and is very sad." Although the child was eventually raised by Ms. Liang, her daughter’s disappointment with her father was also in her eyes. In order to make up for the lack of children and explain to bilateral parents face to face, Ms. Liang finally agreed with her ex-husband to choose the divorce date after the year.
During the Chinese New Year, Ms. Liang and her ex-husband took their daughters to have a reunion dinner at her husband’s house and her mother’s house, respectively, and expressed their gratitude to their parents. In Ms. Liang’s view: "There is no deep hatred between our husband and wife when they go to divorce, but the concept is not harmonious." And this last reunion dinner is also Ms. Liang’s unwillingness to leave regrets for herself and her family.
"In fact, the number of people who consult for divorce during the Chinese New Year and apply for divorce after the year will indeed increase." Mr. Huang, the person in charge of a marriage rescue and service center, said in an interview that from the nearly three years since the establishment of his company, he can clearly feel that the business volume of the company is relatively large at the end of each year and the beginning of each year.
According to Mr. Huang, some of the businesses of the Marriage Rescue and Service Center he runs are to help couples rebuild their marriage and solve various problems encountered in marriage. "Judging from the cases we have encountered, problems during the Chinese New Year, especially those involving who is in the New Year, getting along with the elders during the New Year, sharing housework during the Spring Festival, etc., can all be the driving force for the breakdown of marriage."
In Mr. Huang’s memory, a man once suggested that he wanted to take his wife back to her husband’s house in the village for the New Year, and during the New Year, his wife took on a lot of housework, and finally his wife had the idea of divorce. According to Mr. Huang, because of the custom of his hometown, the man has taken his wife back to his husband’s house for the New Year’s Eve many times, and he can’t return to his mother’s house until the second day of the New Year’s Eve. This has also caused his wife’s dissatisfaction for many years. In addition, during the Chinese New Year, the family banquets at home are also handled by the wife and mother-in-law. For a long time, the wife complained.
Under the persuasion of Mr. Huang, the man’s marriage did not break down in the end. However, some couples failed to get together because of various complicated things during the Spring Festival. Even after the cooling-off period of divorce, they finally chose to divorce after the Spring Festival.
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Sociologist:
Avoid impulsive divorce
Relevant social services need to be institutionalized.
The rising divorce rate is no longer a new topic. Since 2003, China’s divorce rate has started to rise. The reporter combed the data of the crude divorce rate released by the National Bureau of Statistics in the past 10 years and found that from 2003 to 2019, the national divorce rate has increased significantly, but since 2020, the divorce rate has dropped significantly.
Statistics over the years show that in 2003, the number of registered divorces reached 1.33 million, and the crude divorce rate was 1.05&permil. Since then, it has been on the rise; By 2016, the number of divorce registrations rose to 4,158,200 couples, and the national crude divorce rate reached 3.00&permil for the first time; Above; Until 2019, the number of registered divorces reached 4,700,600, and the national crude divorce rate rose to 3.36‰ It has become the peak of divorce in the past 10 years.
From 2003 to 2019, why did China’s divorce rate rise continuously in these 16 years? Wen Jun, dean and professor of the School of Social Development of East China Normal University, told reporters that there are several reasons behind this.
First, from a macro perspective, due to the accelerated pace of social changes and transformation, the traditional division of labor between husband and wife and family structure have been impacted, and more and more women have taken up jobs, their social status has been improved, and their economic subordination has been reduced, which has immediately broken the family stability and raised the possibility of divorce to a certain extent;
Secondly, from the microscopic point of view, people’s ideological emancipation brought about by social progress has changed their understanding of traditional marriage, and they no longer think that divorce is a bad behavior, which also makes more people dare to pursue personal happiness and say no to low-quality marriage, thus increasing the possibility of divorce.
In Wen Jun’s view, behind the high divorce rate, it also reflects the crux of China’s social organization, interpersonal network construction and insufficient level of community public services. "Especially for young people’s impulsive divorce, apart from administrative intervention, we still lack effective social services to resolve it, and the excellent solutions provided by social organizations and even emotional counseling and counseling are still insufficient.
However, the reporter also noticed that after 2019, the divorce rate in China gradually went downhill. By 2020, the number of divorce registrations will drop from over 4.7 million couples to 4.339 million couples, and the crude divorce rate will drop to 3.09‰ ; In 2021, it dropped to 2,839,300 couples, and the crude divorce rate dropped to 2.01‰ .
In this regard, in Wen Jun’s view, the decline of divorce data after 2019 conforms to the law of social development. "China’s divorce rate rose for 16 years and then fell back, indicating that it has reached its peak in the past year and began to transition to a stable state." In addition, Wen Jun said that the setting of the cooling-off period for divorce also provided "soil" for the decline of divorce rate in recent years to some extent.
In Wen Jun’s view, in order to avoid the phenomenon of impulsive divorce after the year, social services in various places should keep up, and gradually incorporate community emotional mobilization, marriage counseling, community adjustment and psychological and emotional construction into the institutionalized construction.
Chengdu Business Daily-Red Star Journalist Yang Yuqi Wuyang